Activities and personal relationships, the basis of a good retirement
Retirement is the action by which an actively working person, both on their own account and on behalf of another, becomes inactive at work, that is, they stop working due to a series of reasons, such as age or the presence of physical problems.
This stage is an important moment of life, although it is a phase that sometimes brings the retirement syndrome, that is, the appearance of many fears, it is possible that it is a golden age in which new skills are already learned. Enjoy each day in a different way. But, as a rule, it is a period of abrupt change that affects many spheres: economic, leisure, personal relationships, etc.
«It requires a time of adaptation, which can range from six months to a year,» explains Carlos Martín, a family doctor from Barcelona and coordinator of the Week of Self-care organized by the Spanish Society of Family and Community Medicine (Semfyc), who says that «it is a time of risks, but also of opportunities».
The expert points out that the way in which someone will face retirement depends on many individual factors but, in general, it can be stated that «men carry it worse than women, since women tend to have more personal relationships and a tendency to talk about anything. It is also worse for people who have not known how to maintain a network of social relationships, which is why it is now very limited, «says Martín.
There is also the issue that retired people have to face and that many do not think about before, and it is the change that their life as a couple will experience. «They must learn to live together again, that is, to spend much more time together, and this for some is a great challenge», acknowledges the coordinator.
What can be done?
There are some tricks to cope better with this stage that, in some cases, can become the best in life. Martín recommends that «the first thing to do is get informed, especially from the economic point of view, and mentalize for when the time comes.» You have to prepare your retirement early and think about what activities you would like to do, «he says.
There are different occupations for when one stops working: to dedicate oneself to participation or volunteer projects, to continue forming, either at the university level or of more concrete courses and workshops, to collaborate in social projects, cultural activities, writing, to promote the hobbies that have or discover new ones, travel, take care of relatives … «There are multiple possibilities, but the important thing is not to do many things, but to have meaning for those who do them. During the working life we have obligations and do things we do not like, so in this new stage we have to choose something that truly satisfies us, «says the family doctor.
It is also very important to have a social network, friends. Those who during their active life already participated in associations of neighbors, cultural entities or other groups, adapt more easily to their new status as retirees because their network of relationships is wider. «But there are other people who discover these ways of participating when they retire and develop new intergenerational relationships with them that provide them with great satisfaction,» explains Martín. In addition, the old relationships of the past can also resurface.
Retirement is also an excellent time to take care of yourself, do sport or activity for which you never had time and a healthy and rich diet that allows you to savor the best products of the earth. «Eat more cereals, vegetables and fruit, as well as replace red meat with white meat. In addition, taking care of personal hygiene, a good external image, will also help to feel good, «says Martín.
This stage also affects family and couple relationships. «Being retired does not vaccinate against separation,» says the expert. That is why it is also important to maintain a good family relationship, both before retirement and afterwards. In addition, family members are the closest people to whom you will be able to go if you have a more serious condition such as memory loss. Therefore, the greater availability of time for the retiree often affects the relationship with the rest of the family, sometimes because they claim their help, and sometimes because the retiree turns over.